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Too busy?
About a month ago, I found out that I need to take summer classes this summer. If I want to be able to take my third year classes this fall, I need to take at least two classes this summer. So that’s what I am doing. Now the job problem awaits. I don’t know what to do. I will have 1 class all of June, and then another class all through July and August. This fall and winter, I have taught piano lessons for that little bit of extra income. But piano lessons are just about done! Now what?
My priority this summer is spending time with my “new husband.” He works during the day, and I will be taking classes for half the day. Now here are my options
1) I go to school in the morning for half the day. I do homework in the afternoons and then my nights are free to hang out with Jon. + I get lots of Jon time – We only have his income
2) I go to school in the morning, work the afternoons at some part time job, then have nights to do homework and spend time with Jon. + We will have a little extra income – Either I will not get a lot of homework done, or I will not get a lot of time to spend with Jon
3) Go to school in the morning, do homework in the afternoons and then work a night time serving job at a restaraunt or something. +We will have quite a bit extra income due to better tips (supper hours) – Will not get hardly any time to spend with Jon
You would think that it’s an easy choice. Devote the first 4 months of your marriage to your new husband, and take the cut in the income for a couple months. But my only problem with this is that I have never been not busy. If this is the path I choose to take, I don’t know what I am going to do with myself for all day. I think I might just go crazy.
So for anyone who is reading this, I would love for you to comment and tell me what option you think I should do. It’s kind of like a survey I guess!
-danielle
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Oh my goodness! Slight freak out today. There’s only three weeks left until the wedding. That is absolutely insane. Don’t get me wrong, I’m loving it, but it’s still insane. On Saturday’s we have our pre-marital counseling with our pastor. It has actually been quite the pleasant experience. Not anything like what you see on the movies.
There are a few things that have been really important to learn. One of those was “how to fight.” Jon and I have issues with fighting. When we fight, it takes us forever to resolve it. We both won’t talk for a really long time, then one person usually drives home and then a half an hour later someone calls and apologizes and then we explain ourselves, and then everything is good. In counselling we have talked about how it’s important to take those breaks to go think about everything and not blow up at the other person, but those breaks need to be timed. We have decided that we can’t go for more than an hour without resolving the conflict, or else it just builds up and builds up then some day all of the frustrations will come pouring out and we will have so many things to deal with. Apparently the key to fighting nice is dealing with problems as they come. Don’t ever let any un-resolved problems go. This way it keeps the air “free.”
Another important thing we have learned about is our characteristics. For one, I am the biggest feeler ever. I love talking about things and I am quite emotional. On the other hand Jon is quite “steady.” He doesn’t need to talk about things in depth and he’s not that emotional. Put these two personalities together and you get an interesting mix. (Although interesting, God has deliberately brought us as opposites together. I really believe that) Together we have learned that sometimes I just need to know that Jon doesn’t want to talk about stuff. He sometimes just doesn’t feel like talking (I know, how can that be possible!) And he just likes his space. But me, yes I like to talk about everything. When he comes back from the youth group he works at, I want to hear how it went. I want him to share his heart about the night and all the amazing things that must have happened. He just sees it as any old night. We have learned how to compromise. Sometimes Jon needs to talk and share with me, and sometimes I just need to let him be quiet and not pressure him to talk. I am sure that all of these differences will be even more evident when we’re married, but honestly I can not wait. I can’t wait to see how God is going to work through our marriage to bring us closer to Himself.
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